Since when does Fashion have boundaries?

12:05 PM missusmonroe 0 Comments

Many of you guys might know I was featured on Fashion Bomb Daily's website for the second time, this time with me actually submitting. Actually, new readers might know but for our usual indulgers here's the link: http://fashionbombdaily.com/2014/07/07/fashion-bombshell-day-dami-maryland/ . This post is about that submission but more so what stemmed from it. The thing is there was a strong amount of backlash in response to the posting of both my official post and highlights on FBD's insta with people behaving in their usual tendencies when they see something they may not be able to completely understand, in other words whenever they see me: rude/harsh commentary about anything but the point, far-off assumptions about my life or the way I live it, instructions on how I should ~those are rather funny~, and just a lot of hatred and apparent bitterness. With that being said, that's still not the point of this post. I could sit here and complain about how people are, I could respond to each and ever of their comments but seriously why the hell would I waste my precious time? I just wanted to address something to all of you readers out there who may not be as confident as I am or who are but are struggling with bullying or whatever you may have it.

First of all, the short description I gave Fashion Bomb Daily was the complete truth. I've been different from the beginning and I will go out different. My different isn't even like others' different. I've noticed if someone is what others consider beautiful if they are "different" or "stand out", which isn't really hard to do if you're beautiful, it's completely okay. In fact, it's encouraged and praised. BUT if one is to be like me, completely hideous to one person but wonderfully beautiful to another, it's not allowed. No, no, if that beautiful person is of my complexion and they are wearing some nice, bright red lipstick they're fierce and praised for not allowing complexion boundaries disallow them to move forward and be their beautiful. However, if someone like me were to do the same thing I'm torn down, I'm ridiculed, and make fun of endlessly. I'm told I shouldn't do that, instructed to "tone it down", be like everyone else. What's the difference here? PERCEPTION. I want to let y'all know that if you are in the same position I've always been in, it will be hard to shut those voices out. It hurts at first, it hurts a lot. You just continue to wonder why people treat you this way and why can they not accept the fact that you aren't like them! Simply and plain, you will also never be like them. 

The events of the past week reminded me of so much that I had gone through, because up until now it's been pretty good in relation to this. But people will be people and many ignorant people will continue to believe that all of their opinions are indeed fact when they are nothing but opinions only relating to little ol' them. 

A comment that I happened to read with the official feature though was pertaining to one of the looks and it said something along the line of look blah-blah would look a lot better with heels and a clutch. Heels and a clutch people, I almost threw-up through my laughter. If you even just browse through the submissions that's all everybody submits! To some that's stylish but to me it has its time and it's place. It's not really "classic" and it's not truly fashion-forward. It's more so something to fall back on if all else fails. That comment stuck with me and with all of the insults and worthlessness people wrote, that probably insulted me the greatest. To simplify myself so that someone else can feel comfortable? How far must I go then to make you, the not-owner of my life, happy?! My style doesn't depend on others and my beautiful doesn't need the approval of others. I'm comfortable with me and if nobody can accept and respect that, that's completely fine with me.

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